Getting a date with attractive women

The five minute or less method:

1. Go out in public to a social gathering.

2. Be in a great mood, just out to have fun.

3. Talk to several people on the way to the bar. To get in the talking to people mood.

4. Walk in and take a look around. Get one drink and flirt with someone. Talk to a couple of people with small talk.

5. Look for some fun groups, move closer and get involved in the group. Warm up. Other women will see you talking and having a good time.

6. Keep your eyes open for an attractive woman. Eye contact, don't look away when she catches it. She looks away first. Be smiling a genuine smile.

7. You have seen her, now you have 3 seconds to walk over and start talking. "You look like fun" " I really like that hat. Say hi, maintain eye contact don't look at the floor.

8. Flirt with her. Tease her about something and make her laugh. Keep an eye on her body language to watch for her reactions. Touch her lightly on the arm or shoulder. No throwing your arm around her yet. Involve the others in her group. Don't act too interested in her. Start a conversation about the surroundings. Look for her to give you topics to talk about. Use her name often. Have a fun playful game or story to tell her.

9. Watch your body language. No slouching( shoulders back, chest pulled up and out) or leaning in until she says something good. When she starts to earn some attention from you, make sure your body leans back in, then get distracted and make her earn some more attention. Push and pull with your amount of interest.

10. Always agree with her views, no arguing. You can add some teasing but you want to be saying "Me Too!" a few times. Keep the conversation going for a few minutes with light touches and humor. Listen closely to what she is saying, give her your attention if it is good conversation.

11. You don't have to keep the conversation going for more than a few minutes. You need to look like you are a busy popular man. Tell her you really have to go see your friends. You had fun talking to her.

12. Get her phone number and set up a date. Tell her about something fun, you are going to be doing this week and ask if she wants to come along. If she can't go, tell her you want to talk to her more soon and just get her phone number.

13. Then leave, you can stay around the bar for a little while but you don't want her seeing you getting 4 girls phone numbers. Don't be a guy who sits around a bar all night. You have a life.

Simple as that guys and it takes longer to read than actually do. You don't have to talk to a girl for a half hour. In fact, keeping the first meet short is much better. You will have less chance of messing up. Talking too much gets guys in trouble. You already know that.

Chapter Nine - First Dates

Here are a few ideas for a good first date. The First date is a major stepping point but remember it is just about having a fun time getting to know who she is. Don't worry about how you are feeling, concentrate on making her feel good.

To have a great first date, you need to prepare and plan it out. Get the newspaper and go to the entertainment section. They call it that for a reason, it is entertaining for people. Scan it for ideas and write down three of them. You need fun things to do or watch and a place to eat and have a drink. One of the places must be a good conversation location.

Dinner and a movie works but it is classic boring to women. And expensive. Find inexpensive things to do on a first date. Fun activities are best. And more than one location is important.

Go watch people play soccer or softball. Go mini-golfing or to shoot some pool. Throw darts at a nice sports bar. Go to the book store and then for a walk. Go to a museum.

You need to find 3 or 4 fun things to do. Two or three nice little cafes. Two or three parks to walk in. A good quirky shopping area to explore.

You only need a couple of ideas to turn into your standard First Date experience. Surprise, you can take them all through the same date. And you will get good at it fast, it will be second nature and you will be comfortable.

So make your First Date Plan. Go drive down and find out where they are and where to park, ahead of time. Go in and check them out. If you can make friends with people that work there, it is icing on the cake. Women like popular men. Write the plan down and put it up on your mirror.

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First location: We will go check out the new exhibit at the Art Museum.

Then we will drive to

Second location: A quick drink and bite to eat at Moes' Cafe.

Then I will suggest some exercise and head to

Third location: A walk through the Arboretum Park.

You will be reading her interest and gauging her reactions. Some women will be ready to go home earlier. Just keep offering options and have fun. The first date can be 30 minutes or 2 hours. I wouldn't recommend more than 2 hours unless things are really going good. And when she looks like she has had enough, you should end it on a high note before she does. Have a reason you have to cut it short planned out.

This is just having fun and learning more about her. You don't want to ask a million questions, just a few. She should be doing most of the talking, you listen and ask about what she is talking about. She will give you ideas if she likes you. Let her help. The key is to just relax and be comfortable.

Your first few first dates will be nerve wracking, but if you plan well there is less to worry about. Some of her questions may surprise you. Just think of a good answer or don't answer it at all and change the subject. This isn't an interview. Talk about what is going on around you and tease her often.

Once you have a plan, it is simple to ask a girl to join you. Call her up and get her laughing, then offer your suggestion. Not knowing what it do for a date is a major reason you don't ask girls out. So make a plan. It isn't written in stone, you can let her have input. Just do what feels right. Be flexible but ready.

At the end of the first date, you should have:

Made her laugh

Learned more about her

Had fun

Touched her arm and hands more than once

Gotten her comfortable enough for you to get really close to her

If possible, you should have fed her some food, or tasted her drink

When you get close, you should be able to feel if it is time to kiss her yet

The earlier you kiss her the better. Don't wait for the end of the date.

When you say goodbye, you should offer a second date later in the week. Try to get her to agree. Don't just leave it up in the air. You can but it is a risk. Now don't be super eager, she shouldn't know you are in love with her yet. Let her wonder for a week. Keep it low pressure but fun. Tell her she was great fun.

You definitely want to get a kiss on the first date. No kiss means you probably blew it, especially if she wanted a kiss. Go for the kiss and early in the date.

Have a plan for what to do on the second date.

Trying to sleep with her on the first date is really not recommended, unless it is really going well. Rare. It takes time for a woman to be ready to sleep with you. Don't push too early. The second or third date is fine. An average time between meeting a girl and sleeping with her is about seven hours spent alone together. Counting phone calls and the very first time you met her. Don't rush it. Let her warm up.

Great Second Dates